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Post by Joxcee on May 11, 2008 19:12:46 GMT -5
I'm glad your mom's getting good care. I hope they get her back on her feet and she's able to live where she wants. And perhaps by that time she may decide she's in the best place. I prefer when people have an option, and I'm sure they prefer that too.
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Post by Quettalee on May 12, 2008 15:27:06 GMT -5
Hey Jox! She is getting better care and not trying to do things that she isn't suppose to--things that will cause her to fall from the chair that she's standing in to reach cleaning off the top of the 'fridge...or losing her breath because she is trying to carry all the plants outside so they can sun...etc. She won't ever go anywhere else tho. Her home is gone and my brother is suppose to have the majority of her stuff packed away for us to go through together...someday. Sad for her in a way, but she was sad there with Lloyd's chair and end table just like he left it...and all the other memories lying around to haunt her daily. And I know she is happier than she would be at Tommy's. That would last about three days--give or take. At least now, she can still close her room door and feel like she has her privacy. There are only 10 ladies and one gentleman in the whole place...and only three on her end of the house. She seems happy--or at least happier than she was.
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Post by Joxcee on May 12, 2008 20:29:36 GMT -5
I think that there are more good places to take care of the elderly now than there once were. Or maybe we just hear too much about the ones that are bad, and not enough about the ones that are good. I think maybe the smaller the place the better the care. It's the big ones that don't hire enough workers per tenet that there's a problem. I really don't know.
Mom still does her yard work, but sometimes I think that helps keep her from giving up. They say, "Use it or lose it." So I guess we'll let her go until she can't do it herself. She does bits at a time and paces herself. She rests and then goes at it again. She was healthy as a horse until she got this disease, so I wouldn't want to be another obstacle to get in her way.
We have senior citizen apartments in town, so with that she wouldn't have a yard and house to take care of. But really, getting her to leave her home would take quite a feat. I know it would me. I'd rather have a house than an apartment any day. Getting old can be such a pain. And I turn 50 in August! Sheesh. We might end up getting apartments next to each other.
Mom really loves her garden though. She'll have one for as long as she can. She really missed having one last summer.
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Post by katmandu on May 15, 2008 21:44:31 GMT -5
Excellent news champ, it's s big wrench for the elderly to leave their home, and for your Mom to have settled it so well is really great. Must be an enormous relief for you also to know that she now has people looking out for her 24/7.
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Post by Quettalee on May 15, 2008 22:03:06 GMT -5
It's unbelievable the always nagging-hanging-lurking-in-the-back-of-my-mind dread that has been taken away. That may sound selfish of me, but I can't help it. We had a plan and we put that plan in order six years ago, but she just wasn't happy up here. It wasn't her home either. And I understood that as well, but I wanted her up here because I knew it would play out like this where she wouldn't be able and my brother just wouldn't...so I'm glad she's there.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
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Post by katmandu on May 15, 2008 22:08:23 GMT -5
Nothing the least bit selfish about that champ, your Moms getting the care she needs and you don't have the worry of not knowing how she's managing by herself, win win situation as I see it.
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Post by gams on May 16, 2008 6:35:10 GMT -5
I agree with Katina, Q; I don't think it's in the least bit selfish. There certainly may be a period of adjustment for her, but you now don't have to worry that she's caring for herself properly; there are people who will make sure she's doing what she needs to, and if not, will do it for her. And I loved the flower story; it made me smile.
I can't imagine the relief you feel. It's a worry that is constantly in the back of my mind. Mom lives alone in this great, big house; she gets around well, but walks with a cane, and I'm always afraid she'll fall down the steps, or on the ice in winter. My brothers check in on her at least once a week personally, and more by phone, but they both live about an hour away, and it's a five hour drive for me. We've all tried to convince her that the house is too big for her to keep up, and suggested she move into a condo. Pfft, she says.
She's always spoke of the stubbornness on Dad's side of the family, and says that's where I must have inherited mine. Pfft, I say. I know where it comes from.
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Post by mlt on Oct 24, 2012 0:15:36 GMT -5
Miss you more than ever, mom... Lillian Inez Wilder March 19, 1928 - October 23, 2010
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Post by Joxcee on Oct 24, 2012 17:17:40 GMT -5
I think one of the things that makes getting old hard is that we lose so many loved ones along the way. The older I get, the fewer older generation there is still around, and one day I will be the oldest generation in the family. So not looking forward to that.
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